Okay, I'm New to This. Trying Every Anal Relaxing Lube I Could Find, Solo, So I Actually Know What I'm Talking About

Hi, I'm Kasia. Let me just say it. I'm 30, my sex life has always been pretty standard, and anal play was something I'd thought about but never actually tried. Not with a partner, not solo, nothing. But lately I kept thinking, why not just try it myself first? On my own terms, my own space, my own pace, where I could stop the second I wanted to and nobody would know but me.

So that's exactly what I did. I bought basically every anal relaxing lube I could get my hands on from LushaLustre.com, gave myself a few weeks, and worked through them one at a time, solo, with my own toy, paying very close attention to what my body was actually telling me.

Full honesty though, the first night I did this, I had a glass of wine beforehand. Maybe two. Not to get drunk, just to take the edge off, because my brain would not stop asking "wait, is this going to hurt?" on a loop. Turns out I needed to mentally prepare almost as much as I needed to physically prepare my butt, lol. Once I actually relaxed into it though, that nervous, giddy, slightly taboo feeling turned into something genuinely exciting. Like I was finally letting myself explore something I'd been curious about for years.

I used a glass toy for this whole experiment, which ended up being a great call. Glass works with literally every lube type, water based, silicone, hybrid, so I never had to stop and think about compatibility. One less thing to overthink on top of everything else I was already overthinking.

Wait, These Aren't All the Same Thing

Something I didn't realize until I was already a few products in: these aren't all doing the same job.

Some of them are relaxing serums, small bottles meant for a tiny amount applied externally first, just to help you relax before anything else happens. They are not your main lubricant. I made the mistake of assuming one bottle would do everything, and quickly learned that's not how this works.

The rest are glides, bigger bottles meant to be used generously, on the toy and on your body, reapplied as often as you need. And you will need it more than you think. Anal play needs way more lubrication than anywhere else on your body gets, since there's no natural wetness happening back there on its own. Skimping on lube is basically the number one reason this kind of play ends up feeling uncomfortable instead of good.

So my actual routine became: small amount of a relaxing serum first, give it a minute or two, then switch to a real glide and be generous with it. Genuinely generous. That combination changed everything for me.

The Relaxing Serums (Small Amount, First Step)

Adventure Anal Relaxing Serum
Clove oil, goji berry, aloe, lemongrass. Within a minute or two I felt this warm, gentle looseness, not numb, just less tense, like my body was exhaling. I did notice a small warming tingle from the clove a couple times. Not bad, just noticeable, kind of like a heads up that something is happening. This is a prep step only, I always moved on to a real glide after.

Mojo Clove Oil Anal Relaxing Gel
Another clove oil formula, slightly stronger feeling than Adventure. The warming sensation was a bit more present here too, other reviewers online described it as "a small burn, but that's just the clove," and yeah, that lines up with what I felt. Still just a prep step, not a full lubricant on its own.

The Glides (Be Generous, This Is the Main Event)

Bliss Water Based Anal Relaxing Glide
Same clove relaxing idea as Adventure, but in a thick, cushiony glide made for generous, repeated use. Worked great with my glass toy, and I could reapply as much as I wanted without a second thought.

Mojo Water Based Anal Relaxing Glide
Basically Bliss's twin. Same clove based approach, similarly cushiony. If you already own one of these two, you probably don't need both.

Soothe Anal Anti-Bacterial Glide
A totally different ingredient story, guava bark extract instead of clove. Thick, cushiony, and none of that warming tingle I felt with the clove ones. This one felt purely about comfort, which honestly was a nice break after a few weeks of clove.

Ease Anal Silicone Glide
Bisabolol, a chamomile derived ingredient, and silicone based instead of water based. Since my toy was glass, compatibility was a non issue here. This one lasted the longest out of everything I tried without needing to reapply, and there was zero warming sensation, just smooth, quiet comfort.

Jelle Plus Water Based Anal Lubricant with Relaxants
Aloe, arnica, vitamin E, jojoba, and clove extract, all in a full glide instead of a small serum. Quick note, arnica can bother people with ragweed related allergies, so patch test first if that's you. No reaction for me personally, and the warming sensation was mild, similar to Adventure.

My Honest Takeaway

Every single one of these avoided the actual numbing effect some other anal products lean on, and honestly, staying present and actually feeling everything made this whole experiment feel safer, not scarier. I went in nervous and a little giddy about how taboo the whole thing felt, and came out the other side feeling like I actually understand my own body a lot better now.

If I had to sort them:

• Want to relax first? Adventure or Mojo Clove Oil Gel, small amount, applied before anything else
• Want your main glide? Bliss, Mojo Water Based Glide, Soothe, Ease, or Jelle Plus, applied generously and reapplied often
• Sensitive to warming, or just want pure comfort? Soothe
• Want the longest lasting glide? Ease
• Curious about a fuller ingredient blend? Jelle Plus, just check the arnica note

A few honest notes if you're thinking about trying something like this yourself. Give your body a few days between products so you actually know what's causing what. Go easy on the relaxing serums, but don't be shy with the glides, more really is better here. And if you ever feel real irritation instead of a mild warm tingle, stop and give yourself a break. Maybe pour that glass of wine after, not during, lol.

I bought everything mentioned here myself from LushaLustre.com. Thanks for reading, and hey, if you try any of these yourself, I want to know how it went.

— Kasia